After reading A Journey Out of Bullying by Patricia L. Scott, I am left with only one regret – that this fine book was not available to me during my twenty-seven year tenure as Head of a school for children with special education needs. The psychological damage to children wrought by bullying was readily apparent from the outset, as was the will to combat. What I urgently required was a sensitive, engaging and realistic source of information in order to kick-start our staff-parent-pupil discussions and to provide the focus for in-service training initiatives.
This delightfully direct and eminently readable volume would, without doubt, have met our various needs admirably. I could happily make the book available to parents, safe in the knowledge that they would not be in any way overpowered by esoteric academic jargon, and that they would finish reading the book feeling empowered and hopeful. Equally, I would be confident in setting the book as preparatory reading for all my staff knowing that they would not, as so often happens in books on this subject, be made to feel culpable or incompetent. In my opinion it should be required reading on initial teacher training courses as it provides a comprehensive overview of the topic.
I should also emphasize what I consider to be the most important characteristic of the book: it is, above all, uplifting. The whole tenor of the book is positive – action is preferred to sufferance, hope to despair and throughout the will to conquer this blight on our society is paramount. I can thoroughly recommend this magnificent book to anyone who has an interest in the well-being of children in any capacity.
Michael G. Coxe
Retired Headmaster, Longford Park School
Stretford, Trafford, Greater Manchester, United Kingdom.
If we are truly interested in reducing the damaging effects of bullying, educators, health care professionals, and parents need to listen to one another. Patricia L. Scott’s strong parental voice describes a mother’s desperate attempts to save her child from the cruelty and pain inflicted by another child. It offers hope that springs from taking loving action and wisely participating in the lives of our children and provides a valuable perspective that underscores the key role parents play.
The Canadian Safe School Network
Our attitude towards bullying is slowly changing, and for the better. For the longest time, bullying was regarded with indifference, tolerated, or explained away as a “rite of passage” with few consequences. Systematic research over the last three decades has shone light on a dark corner of children’s supposedly idyllic school days. We now know that bullying is more widespread than originally thought, has many forms, and its consequences can be devastating and long lasting.
As part of the changing attitude, there is more and more a willingness to intervene and this book by Patricia L. Scott should be of great help. In presenting from the point of view of parents, the personal, and at times painful, accounts of young people’s lived experiences and a family thrown into crisis because of peer relationships gone sour, the book goes a long way in capturing the reverberating effects of bullying on everyone involved. This first-hand account is passionate, direct and hopeful. It should serve parents well as they seek for validation of their experiences, serve them well as they derive solace from the fact that other families are also struggling with this serious problem, and help them develop trust that, through a direct and honest engagement, ways can be found to overcome a troubling and difficult situation.
Zopito A. Marini, Ph.D.
Professor of Child and Youth Studies
I am the mother of not one but two children who have been bullied. My heart has ached more times than I have ever been willing to admit. I have felt shame over my children not being socially acceptable, then guilt for that shame and my inability to fix this curse on my babies. “How can this
happen?” we have asked ourselves, when they have two parents who are so outgoing and confident, when we easily deal with crises at home and work, yet are stopped in our tracks when it came to facing this problem of bullying. I have to admit that I actually viewed it as a curse and never moved past my own children's pain to see that there were other children and families feeling the same.
What a fabulous motivator Patricia L. Scott's Journey out of Bullying has been for my family. I read the book to my two teenagers, not an easy task, yet they were both interested throughout. This book reveals and finally “outs” the blight on society that bullying is and puts it into perspective that even kids can understand. It provides insight and ideas on how to stop our denying the crisis and how to take action beyond cuddles, kisses and the hollow words "It's not you honey, the other kid has the problem."
Every parent or teacher, who has thought bullying isn't a problem, or that it is too ingrained in our society to be stopped, should read this book and take action. Just the other day, after reading your book, my quiet sensitive son, who often tries to be invisible, confronted a bully of his and said, "If you have something to say about me, say it to my face." The other boy said nothing. I believe that's a case closed. Thanks, Pat.
Mother of two